The Wooden Bowl

Thursday, November 8, 2007
I was meaning to post this but kept on putting it off until now. I first read this story last Monday, November 5 in David Jeremiah's Turning Point. Then I saw it again. It broke my heart and had tears welling up my eyes as I read on.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. “We must do something about father,” said the son. “I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.” So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl!

When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old smiled and went back to work .

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

Our parents were once like us. And time will come when we will be their age too. Think about it, would you have the heart to do the same to your own parents? Sometimes they just need a little something to make them smile.

People will forget what you said ... People will forget what you did ... But people will never forget how you made them feel.

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7 comments:

Anonymous said...

So true, people do remember how we made them feel. I can't hardly imagine anyone being treated in this way. However, I do know my SIL, as a child, was abused to the point of her mother making her eat off newspaper so she didn't have to do dishes. Maybe it's just that my heart doesn't want to accept such hurtful things.

Thank you, Pia, for this very, very good reminder to not just speak kindness but to do kindness.

James 1:22 (NKJV)
...be doers of the word, and not hearers only...

Anonymous said...

What a heart touching story Poa, really jangled my heart strings.i am taking care of 2 old people and sometimes its difficult to slow down, but this story will be a reminder.Thank you.

Anonymous said...

It sometime hard to recall we all once was a younger.

My grandfather lived with us and I recall on Sunday I would sit on his lap and he read me the Sunday comics to me.

Anonymous said...

Out of the mouths of babes...

I think sometimes we forget that the children among us are watching every move we make. When we think they are too young to know or to realize what we are doing, they know exactly what we are doing.

Anonymous said...

i've seen this story before and it really makes one stop and take stock of life and how we treat one another. good reminder for me Pia. thanx.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes the world look completely different when viewed through another's eyes...be nice to your children, they may pick your nursing home!

Anonymous said...

sparrow: eat off newspaper? that's rude! should have used at least paper plates if she didn't want to do the dishes. my God! your SIL might have really felt so bad. oh...

amrita: i know it's difficult to care for the old but they're still God's children and we shouldn't treat them any differently. keep up the good work. as you do it for them, it's like doing it for the Lord.

peppy: it's nice to remember those things huh? i remember my grandma cooks one of my fave chinese duck dish. now she's gone. =(

tidy: we sometimes underestimate the way kid's think... the truth is they are the ones that can sometimes knock some senses in our thick skull!

sylvia: my heart aches for the grandfather...

jeff: that's right. good thing nursing homes aren't that popular here. we usually care for our old until the day God takes them.

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